December 8, 2008

last Saturday

Last Saturday I was harassed at work by 4 women because I'm a 33 old virgin. Not exactly sure how it started but I became the joke in a room of 10 people. It was surreal, they laughed and laughed. I can give you details but I rather not. I could not believe these women. I asked them why they were being so mean, they could see I wasn't laughing. After work when I got to my car, the tears just rolled... I was so embarrassed and uncomfortable. I called my supervisor and told him what happened. Today they got talk to and warned.
I've had second doubts if I did the right thing. I was told that I did, because it's a form of sexual harassment. I don't care what religion you are or even if you believe in God, nobody should be made fun of because of what their personal choices are (as to sex or anything else that doesn't break the law of course), NOBODY. I think what hurt the most was that, they have no idea about my dating life and the reasons why I'm not married. I never thought I would get to be 33 and single, but this is the way it is right now. I have no regrets about my decisions to be celibate. Dating has not been easy for me, it's something that I think about a lot. I trust that at it's due time things will work out, but till then I do struggle with it. So when these women were telling me to go do it, because am losing time and it's (sex) not going to get better at 40, well that hurt.
I did learn something out of this ordeal. One should never give personal information, beliefs or views at work, it's good way to take care of yourself and from unwanted attention.
I feel like a Debbie Downer lately, I don't mean to be. I was happy to see snow today, the holidays are coming and it's going to be great with all my family here. So I'm looking forward to it and that makes me smile in the inside and the outside.


  1. Hi Fabiola. I'm sorry those people were so mean to you. That's lame. They don't know what they're missing out on--a clean conscience. I'm proud of you for sticking to your beliefs and I know you will be blessed for it. Maybe something like sex is a little too personal to share at work, but beliefs can always be shared. Just remember how the pioneers were persecuted for their beliefs. We can handle it when people don't take it, because at least they don't want to kill us . . . yet. :) Happy December 9th!

  2. i'm sorry, people can be so inconsiderate and careless.
    i think you need to come to a trip to nyc!

    and i'll be seeing you over new years eve darling! can't wait to dance dance dance with you.

  3. M- Thanks! I agree sex is to personal and I didn't share, they made there own conclusions, it was so bizarre. Live and learn right?!
    Happy Dec. 10

    J- I think I need to come see you too, i need the get away. I can't wait for that reception/dance/party-hardy reunion.

  4. Let me at them!!! I'll bitch slap them. LOL.