I was put in that situation recently.. I didn't surrender tho, I got the courage to do what needed to be done... As far as surrender, I surrendered my hope of being w/that someone for life- so I see your pt. of view... U are very wise.
Sometimes in life, in order for things to change you need to find more courage than you currently have in order for that to happen. When you are pushed to do something, this is exactly what happens. And life does indeed go on because when you jump ... and land it doesn't seem as hard as you thought it would be.
Situations like these are what define your character.